Boys Talk

Today I got to talk to my far away living boyfriend on the phone. It does sound very cliché, but we have really so much in common - in fact, sometimes it can get even scary, cause it's like we're both having just those same weirdest thoughts only Carrie Bradshaw and gay guys are able to give. Seriously. Like today on the phone, we were discussing about our lives prime issues, random stuff, and we so totally have just the same conceptions about what a mature gay relationship should be like: glamorous at first, but also full of single life stuff that I think nobody should ever give up on (married, non married, "it’s complicated" status, WHATEVER), like travels, terrific parties, new experiences that makes us unique/singular individuals , cult life, crazy life...
So there was this special subject I want to discuss on today's post. Okay, it is yes heterophobic, so go on if you got the balls straight bitches, cause more than anybody I want you to read what I have to say cause I think its important.Like a couple of days ago I e-mailed my bf saying how my gay thing is striking my parents since I officially came out 4 months ago, and how pissed off I am: I were aware that they still didn't get it very well , after all they were in sort of a shock (totally understandable, we live in Brazil) but I was pretty sure at least my dad would try to be comprehensive and do some research on homosexuality in order to accept it better, he is a very intelligent, open man. He seemed to be respectful about my "condition", not that he mentioned anything, but at least I weren't thrown on the street or forbidden to leave the house, so that was something. Anyway, coming back from a trip from the beach, I did what I think it was best for us and started to talk about gayness, expecting him to say something to make me proud of him as his gay son. Instead, I had a rather disconcerting experience when he said that "when it comes to two "fairies" making up, he would never understand or accept it as normal. I don't have to mention how devastated I got at first, but then I started to feel real anger and showed to himself how ignorant and poor he was being, and even though he probably ignored what I said, I made it clear that if it weren't for the gay people in the world, he probably would be living in a much much worse world.
My bf then answered me back, and he said something really smart and truthful, that 98% of the declared gay friendly people are actually not 100% gay friendly after all. Okay, apart the very-non-scientific percentages, the essence of his statement is very real and I can guarantee it from what I have experienced as a homosexual so far! Even my parents who have known me my entire life, and have raised me and taught me important values, who are supposed to know me so much better than anybody else, apparently think that being the number one student in my classes, being a polite, well educated, visionary, proficient in Japanese and English and Spanish, (modest boy) are not enough simply because I am gay.
Although a lot of straight people are coming out as non homophobic persons, whether it's for trendy or whatever reasons, most of them are NOT truly catching the idea about the gay friendly thing! Nonsenses such as "I'm okay with gay people as long as they don't make up in front of me cause it's sick" or "I don't hate gays, I just don't need them around" makes me believe that we gay people are really evolved versions of human race, cause at least we're able - or technically most of us are - to accept what's different, and smart enough to proclaim ourselves what we understand the definition! Sweetie, now grown up talk here: you'll sound more intelligent saying you're not really gay friendly than if say you are gay friendly but don't like when two guys make up in front of ya. It sounds kinda inconsistent, you know. Kinda dumb, for the record. Being gay friendly means that someone is just as okay with gay people as with straight ones (a.k.a. EQUAL RIGHTS).
So if you're straight and gay friendly declared, give yourself a chance to be smart(er) (that sounds interesting, doesn’t it?) and think about what it's like to be a non homophobic person before raising the gay flag and act paradoxically, because actual straight gay friendly people is all the support we're aiming for since forever.
Oh, and one more thing for the straight girls who desperate wants a gay guy as a friend to talk over their pointless lives: honey, we're gays, not your pink diaries. Get over it already.
PS: baby, I miss you and I love you. We'll keep on rockin'!